At Skylight: Prachi Gupta presents THEY CALLED US EXCEPTIONAL w/ Connie Wang

Join an Indian American daughter as she reveals how the dangerous model minority myth fractured her family in this “searingly honest memoir that manages to be at once a scalding indictment and a heartfelt love letter” (Scott Stossel, author of My Age of Anxiety).
How do we understand ourselves when the story about who we are supposed to be is stronger than our sense of self? What do we stand to gain—and lose—by taking control of our narrative? These questions propel Prachi Gupta’s heartfelt memoir and can feel particularly fraught for immigrants and their children who live under immense pressure to belong in America. 

Prachi Gupta’s family embodied the American Dream: a doctor father and a nurturing mother who raised two high-achieving children with one foot in the Indian American community, the other in Pennsylvania’s white suburbia. But their belonging was predicated on a powerful myth: that Asian Americans have perfected the alchemy of middle-class life, raising tight-knit, ambitious families that are immune to hardship. Molding oneself to fit this perfect image often comes at a steep but hidden cost. In They Called Us Exceptional, Gupta articulates the dissonance, shame, and isolation of being upheld as an American success story while privately navigating traumas invisible to the outside world. 

Gupta addresses her mother throughout the book, weaving a deeply vulnerable personal narrative with history, postcolonial theory, and research on mental health, to show how she slowly made sense of her reality and freed herself emotionally and physically from the pervasive, reductive myth that had once defined her. But, tragically, the act that liberated Gupta was also the act that distanced her from those she loved most. By charting her family’s slow unraveling and her determination to break the cycle, Gupta shows how traditional notions of success keep us disconnected from ourselves and one another—and passionately argues why we must orient ourselves toward compassion over belonging.

Prachi Gupta is an award-winning journalist and former senior reporter at Jezebel. She won a Writers Guild Award for her investigative essay “Stories About My Brother,” which inspired this book. Her work was featured in The Best American Magazine Writing 2021 and has appeared in The Atlantic, The Washington Post Magazine, Marie Claire, Salon, Elle, and elsewhere. She lives in New York City.

Connie Wang is a journalist and writer based in Los Angeles. She was born in Jinan, China, raised in Minnesota, and went to school at UC Berkeley. Formerly, she was the executive editor at Refinery29 where she hosted and co-produced a documentary series called Style Out There that reported on fashion subcultures around the world. Her debut book, Oh My Mother! A MEMOIR IN NINE ADVENTURES is with Viking Books, and came out this May.

Event date: 
Tuesday, August 29, 2023 - 7:00pm
Event address: 
1818 N Vermont Ave
Los Angeles, CA 90027
They Called Us Exceptional: And Other Lies That Raised Us By Prachi Gupta Cover Image
ISBN: 9780593442982
Availability: On Our Shelves Now
Published: Crown - August 22nd, 2023

Oh My Mother!: A Memoir in Nine Adventures By Connie Wang Cover Image
ISBN: 9780593490921
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Published: Viking - May 9th, 2023